One Simple Tip for a Strong Marriage

In my first year of marriage, I’d get angry at Ben and be in huffy puffy clouds of silent smoke. I’d set up a little pity party, only invite myself, and sit there WAITING SILENTLY for my husband to GUESS his next right move. The moves better be right, you know! I bet you any spouse has done this. It’s an old trick in the book…that never works, of course.

It didn’t take long for me to realize that my husband couldn’t succeed because I’d purposefully blocked all roads to success. I gave him no help. I wanted him to fail. His failure made my pity party so much better. His failure further validated my hurt. His failure meant I had control. Oh, I’d never be pity partying for too long, but that’s a disgusting place to live nevertheless. Read more

Marriage Isn't Boring

I thought about starting this post with all sorts of disclaimers such as I know I haven’t been married for very long and I know I’m young. Blah, Blah, Blah, and I say phooey with disclaimers. I’m just going to share with you what I’ve discovered about marriage, and we will start with #1.

1. Marriage isn’t boring.

The world wants to tell you that marriage is where love goes to die. They hype up the engagement season, and leave the married part in the dust. But folks, marriage isn’t boring. It’s hard work, but it’s also fun work. You learn about each other constantly. You make all sorts of jokes you’d never say in public. You share a whole lot of which nobody else knows about, and you could care less if they do.

2. Married life isn’t boring.

You’ll notice that not all married couples go on and on and about each other on social media. This does not mean that they have a boring married life. I’ve gotten much more quiet since marrying Ben. I share fewer photos of us. I care less about people knowing what we are doing. In fact, I find it particularly fun to keep people in the dark about all our dates and memorable times. That’s called intimacy, and it’s the best. Read more

Let's Talk Life

I don’t need to be reminded often, but some days I get slapped in the face with the truth that I DON’T HAVE IT ALTOGETHER! Raise your hand if you have problems. I’m raising both! That’s how many problems I have! Man, I just don’t have it altogether. I’m a young woman, wife, and friend.

Let me tell you something that’s as plain as day!

I make mistakes in ALL those areas.

I am continually thankful for God’s grace. Not the Pinterest-y feeling you get when you read about grace on a  blog. . I mean, I am so thankful for God’s overwhelming grace in my life. I’m so thankful that I can talk to Him & seek His Rest in times of change and difficulties.

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the first dusting of snow experienced at our blue house!

I am so thankful for people who are honest with me. I’m so thankful for a husband who is patient. I’m so thankful to work with kiddos who love me no matter what! Life isn’t perfect, and I’ve got a non-aesthetic Instagram to PROVE IT! HA!

While life isn’t perfect, it’s life nonetheless which makes it simply beautiful. The last two months have been full of priceless moments. I can’t even remember most of them, but I know I lived them and that’s enough for me.

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happiness = new stain-hiding carpet!

And I just wanted to share a few things from my January & February heart: Read more

Hannah the Bride

What a whirlwind few days it has been! You know you are having a good time when you don’t have an photos to show for it! The first 24+ hours of the wedding celebration was non-stop conversation, laid-back reception prep, numerous jokes, conversations with new & old friends and an overwhelming sense of excitement and joy for what was to come.

rehearsal

The day before the wedding, Hannah finally saw the beautiful decor for herself. We finally had the ceremony rehearsal. We all made it down the stairs in one piece, and oohed and ahhed over the perfect selection of Mrs. Darcy for the wedding party’s walk down the aisle. I could see my sister’s joy even as my own built in momentum.

HJ5Everything was just perfect for her, the excitement tangible, and the memories effortlessly made. After the rehearsal, we had pizza, the greasy kind! We talked, laughed, revisited old times, made new ones and built those relationship bridges that can sometimes only be built during the wedding process.

She went to bed early and left Cheyenne and I to brave the iced coffee making for the reception! After some trial and error, I think it turned out pretty well! Read more