Life & Learning

Before the New Year Comes…

toppostsI’m spending the new year in comfortable clothes, in the house I grew up at, with not a party in sight. And I’m happy about it! ((Does that mean I’m an old adult!)).

So because, I’m no party animal, and there may be a some of you out there who need something to do tonight–I’m sharing some of the top viewed posts that I shared with you this year. I haven’t inclouded the Real Women series in the top 5 posts, but seriously, so many of these stories made the top! Check out this series while it’s still here.

And since a few more of you have joined the Down Cottonwood Lane journey, some of these posts may be new to you! So, thanks for being here. 🙂

Before we get started, I just want to say that— Continue reading “Before the New Year Comes…”

Real Women

Ben’s Perspective

Meet Ben!


1. What was it like when you asked your girlfriend to marry you?

I was very excited. I could hardly keep from exploding the entire time. And I was so excited that I could hardly plan out how I wanted to propose to her. And I was rushing it all, so that’s the main reason I was nervous. I was excited, because obviously, I was pretty sure she would say yes. 🙂 And we were going to enter into this next stage of life together and enjoy companionship for the rest of our lives.

2. Did you have strong opinions about how the wedding should be or were you more like “She can get married in a brown paper bag for all I care!”?

Yes. I wanted a wedding that would glorify God first and foremost. One that would make my future wife happy and a good memory for her to look back on. And I wanted it to be fun for everyone! Those were the three main things.

  • Was there a point in the planning process that you seriously considered just getting in the car to go elope?

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My Wedding Day

1. What did you feel like when you woke up on the morning of your wedding?

I felt happy! I also felt normal, it was just like another day…except I was getting married! I showered and had some time to myself to pray and then I made myself some mint tea. And that was really nice. I was getting married in our backyard, so I was able to stay at the house all day & I wasn’t getting married until 7pm! 🙂


My brother sat on the couch and I sat in the recliner, and while I sipped my tea—we did some talking. “You know Bodie, a wedding day feels just like any other day, except you are getting married…..and whoever said you won’t be hungry on your wedding day doesn’t know what they are talking about.” Well, I did most the talking! hahaha

Handing Ben my suitcases for the honeymoon was another vivid memory. Him packing up the truck with our stuff made it all so much more real! I was like “I’m leaving tonight, and I get to be with him. This is really happening.”

2. Was there any point before the wedding ceremony that just really stressed you inside out? Continue reading “My Wedding Day”
Life & Learning

It’s the People Not the Production

06-FedorkoWedding-Reception-67In June, I wrote a post entitled “It’s Not about the Bride”, it’s still true. I received our official wedding photos this week and the photographer (also a friend) did a magnificent job, going above & beyond in her work! Even more so, I am very happy to see that there were so many pictures taken of the people.  Brides should get it out of their heads that they need to create, decorate, and produce a jaw-dropping wedding that will astound the books and be the most beautiful thing ever.

Have we forgotten the people? The ones who help, who watch, who care, who clean, who do, who pray—who love. People with their animated faces and comforting smiles that assure you of their care, who come to your wedding, even if the ceremony is windy or sunny or cold. People who laugh and take pictures, who eat the food, and clap, and cheer. People who hug you and congratulate you, who are genuinely excited for this next step in your life.


Have we grown so self-centered that a wedding day has to be about the bride?–her beauty–her decorating taste–her magnificent pictures? Surely not.

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