There are a couple times a year that tend to be real time markers for me.
The New Year/My Birthday (January 6)
August used to be a painful time marker, but then our son was born in the beginning of that month and my daughter has her own deep August story I shared with my email subscribers. Time doesn’t always move in the way we hope it will, but when it does, we let it be beautiful! We let our breath catch, our laughter out, our smiles makes wrinkles at our eyes.
I remember when my son was around 5-months-old, I took him out to the garden, sat him in the bumbo seat in the flower bed and did some gardening with him “afoot.” I thought to myself if I don’t start gardening as a mom right now then I never will! Being a new mom is quite the whirlwind. Figuring out how to do things you used to do is quite the task! I made that “used to” null and void every time I sat in the Porch Garden with him or figured out how to take him with me while I did gardening things.
And you know what?! I’m proud of that Sierra who got out there and got things done and figured it out!! Here I am now (still) gardening, still finding my way, and watching my kids love the garden. . . . all it’s joy & beauty.
Heidi loves to watch the water spray, and Shasta does his own chosen work around the garden. The other day he was quite persistent I water the plants, so I got my lazy self out of the ole plastic garden chair and watered the plants while he did his own version of watering. In the late afternoon he actually watered the sunflowers, and fairly well I might add! Dirt was watered too (duh! of course. mud, mom!), but the sunflowers definitely got a good drink.
And let me tell you! We have had a bounty of sunflowers this year.
I could count on one hand how many sunflowers actually bloomed last season, but this year has been a stark contrast in the loveliest way.
Everything is leaning quite haggard now, but there are still sunflowers blooming. I’ve even sent friends home with sunflower bouquets and that has been such a treat for me.
This bounty of the happiest flower has made the garden the bees knees. . .(literally!! it has been a hangout for the bees, and we love to see it!). I have so many sunflower seeds to harvest and while they bloom and lean and the bees buzz about, the zinnias are having their own heyday. I’ve had a lot of pinks and purples this year. Although the one you see with the playhouse is red!😅
Our hydrangea bush even sported the first bloom its had in years!! This hydragea has had a long struggle, but we gave it a new home placed it in a new spot, and the bush has said “thank you!” quite loudly.
If gardens can feel happy, ours has felt it. With wild grapes ripening, and rose buds preparing to burst again soon, zinnias growing strong, and sunflowers blooming steady, we are still maintaining a bit of the high tide that comes with May and June! That is quite a feat for August I think. But here we are.❤
In other news, we visited family in early August, and while there I wrote a poem about time, how it moves, and how good that passage can be. When last we visited I had been about 7 weeks pregnant with our son. Snow on the ground with me scared out of my mind. But fast-forward to present day, and I was watching my boy play barefoot in the backyard, two years old.
How good it can be, how lovely it can go.
Not always but sometimes.
And we don’t talk about those times nearly enough.
I’m sharing the poem below as it captures so much of August and my emotions for it.
Raspberries and Far North Roads
It’s a warm breeze and
Bob Ross trees,
Two years, 9 months ago
it was snow.
and he was seven weeks
and it was hard to breathe.
happiness, scared out of mind.
Down far north roads,
conversations with mom,
And I was sick in the bathroom
and sick in bed, sick with worry,
and so in love,
But it’s late summer now,
an August birthday twice over
and he’s talking and playing,
and laughing, and running,
or skipping, kind of a mix
And I’m smiling and marveling
and we’re barefoot where snow
but it’s us now, like this now.
and it’s beautiful when
moves like that.
Raspberry picking and red
and I can’t get over it
how it feels to be back
when I didn’t know
Back would be so
But he has a heartbeat,
and he’s moving
Warm breeze and
Bob Ross trees
The August garden is saying what I feel, bent over with the life of it, huge, inescapable, loud, lovely, flawed. Like the garden hasn’t arrived, neither have I.
And neither will we ever.
But we love the life we’re in. This one we’re given.
And like the sunflower I will be unafraid to bloom, bend beneath the life, loveliness, and imperfection of it all.
Here we are.